Living is about indulging your passions…for me that is singing and cooking…sometimes even at the same time
Author: singingaboutcooking
If you've had my cooking or heard me sing, you've shared some of the happiest and most memorable moments of my life. But if you've been lucky enough to listen to me sing while I cook, well, then you've seen the real me. And if you've sung and cooked with me, you know what being loved by me is!
Props: the result of someone’s talent that helps you illustrate at least one answer below – I chose to focus on the “when” and show my grandmother’s portrait painted by a 78-year-old novice watercolorist
Just before you came up here you saw Pastor Mike welcome four new members to the church, and he asked them three questions. They are all important questions, but the last one, though simple, really has a lot packed into it. That question is “Will you be a faithful member of the church?”
Our new members said yes, and one thing that means is that they will use a sheet called a Time and Talent sheet to find out the different ways they can share their talents through the church’s activities and ministries.
So here’s my question to you:
What are talents?
accept all kinds of answers, including examples of talents
you could get lucky (like I did) and get the “perfect” answer: talents are special gifts that come from God that we can use to help others
Who gives us talents?
accept all kinds of answers, including talent teachers like musicians, coaches, teachers, etc.
Samuel wrote down for us what happened when Saul needed help. You see, Saul had a lot of bad days, and when he had a bad day, nothing could make it better. It took a while, but Saul learned that God had given someone the talent of playing a lyre – a tiny harp – and that hearing that person play could make the bad days get better. So Saul asked for help finding someone who plays the lyre well, and someone found David, a shepherd who could also play the lyre. David came to work for Saul. He played the lyre to make the bad days get better and also learned to help Saul in other ways too.
Nell Jones (portrait, watercolor) by Lucy Williams
Now I have another question for you: When do we get our talents?
accept all kinds of answers: when we’re born, when we need them, when we’re ready
It’s so important to remember that ALL of those answers are right. If we were to read further in Samuel’s book, we’d learn that as David grew up, he received many more talents from God to use at different times. You know, my grandmother’s best friend Lucy was over 70 years old when God gave her a new talent as a watercolor painter. And she painted this portrait of my Nannie as a gift for her. And she also paints portraits for many of her friends and cards. She’s even painted me a few cards for my birthdays and special occasions in my life, and I cherish them and her talent.
Okay, last question: How many talents do we get?
accept all kinds of answers
Well, let’s count how many talents David has when he first meets Saul:
he’s in the field with the sheep, so he has a talent as a shepherd
he plays the lyre well, so he has a talent as a musician
So David has at least two talents, and I encourage you to read ahead in Samuel to see what other talents God gives to David as he grows into a man and becomes a King.
Will you pray with me?
Dear God, thank you for giving us talents so that we can do the things you ask us to do. Help us to be patient and practice our talents to do the best job we can. Amen
Delivered on Sunday, November 6, 2016 at Palmetto Presbyterian Church in Mt. Pleasant, SC.
Different Mustards: Yellow French’s, Spicy Dijon from France, tangy Herlocher’s from Germany, sweet potato mustard from right here in Mt. Pleasant, spicy Chinese mustard, course brown mustard from India, honey mustard salad dressing from Chic-fil-a
It’s World Communion Sunday so I’ve brought some of my favorite things from all over the world. [point out the different mustards]
What do all of these things have in common? [mustard] That’s right! And they all came from this tiniest tree seed in the world. [hold up a single mustard seed].
How much mustard do you think we can get from this one seed? Enough for a sandwich? Enough for a hot dog or hamburger? Probably not.
So how do we get enough seeds to make enough mustard? [take various answers]
We plant one seed to make a tree of more seeds. Now, from what I’ve read, it takes 3-10 days for a mustard seed to send up its first stems and leaves.
When we come to church, we often talk about faith and that helps our faith grow from a teeny tiny seed into a giant tree. And Jesus tells us that if you have just a teeny tiny bit of faith – like this teeny tiny mustard seed – and you share that faith with others, then you can grow a faith tree just like this teeny tiny seed can grow a huge mustard tree. [show picture of mustard tree with house underneath to illustrate how big it can become]
What’s really cool is that churches all over the world, in all different languages, are celebrating communion today, the same as we are, and that’s what it’s like when we have and share just a little bit of faith and help it grow – a faith tree that’s a big as the whole earth.
Prayer: Dear Jesus, you showed us that faith starts small, as small as the tiniest mustard seed, and grows into a huge group of believers when we plant it and share it with others. Help us to show others our faith every day. Amen
Delivered on Sunday, October 2, 2016 at Palmetto Presbyterian Church in Mt. Pleasant, SC.
2 of the 3 pair of THINX I purchased; I’m wearing the 3rd pair now.
I’m keeping them. And getting some more!
NOTE: The following account of my trial of THINX is completely unsolicited and unpaid; I paid regular price out of my pocket for these period panties and have had no communication with THINX other than the purchase transaction.
Here’s why I tried them:
Aside from performance, I’m always looking for a more sustainable way to manage hygiene, and these are reusable with no solid waste to cause biodegradability concerns.
That comes with the added benefit of being more cost effective in the long run; I estimate it will take 2 months per pair of panties for the cost equivalency of my current disposable method.
And then there’s the education and supply mission of the company: for every pair I purchase, they donate a pair to a woman in a country where period products are simply not available, where girls are banished to a shed for their week a month, missing school, work, income opportunities, etc. Like Tom’s shoes in that way.
Here’s what I chose as my trial kit:
For starters, I got 3 pair (best discount) of the hiphugger style to try; it’s one of two styles designed for “heavy days”. If I don’t like them (doesn’t seem like that will be the case), I simply send them back for a refund – even if I’ve used them.
I ordered the 2x, which is currently their largest size. For sizing comparison, I wear a 22 or 24 in pants without stretch, 20 in pants with stretch.
Here’s my period profile:
So that you can judge how THINX would perform for you, it’s necessary for me to disclose my period profile. I’m a 100% free-bleeder, using pads exclusively.
My period lasts almost exactly 5 days:
First 12 hours: comparable to spotting
Next 24 hours: what I consider regular, using 1 pad per 12 hours
Next 24 hours: what I consider heavy, using 1 pad per 6 hours largely due to clotting – really tricky for the overnight
Next 48 hours: return to regular, sometimes with a 4-6 hour period with no bleeding at all
Next 12 hours: spotting through completion
THINX has attempted to give guidance on how long you’ll be able to wear a particular pair, but as they only use standard tampon size as their guide, those of us who free-bleed (especially those who have only ever free-bled and not used tampons at all) have no frame of reference. I will attempt to provide that below, even specifying the brand and size of pad I typically use during different phases of my period.
Here’s how they performed:
Day 1: since I started midday, and my first day is just spotting, I used a pad. No sense in wasting one of my three precious pairs of THINX on spotting IMO.
Day 2: roughly 9 am – 11 pm – regular flow
Today is my regular flow day on the front end, and I’ve been wearing the first pair since about 9 am. The only time I feel wetness is when I pull them up after going to the bathroom. It’s a fleeting coldness more than wetness that lasts less than 15 seconds. I’ve also paid particular attention to smell, and so far, I’ve had to put my nose within 12 inches of the panties to smell anything at all and even then it’s faint. No leakage at all, and again, I’ve had one pair on for almost 12 hours now.
I’m not at my heaviest flow yet. That will start overnight tonight and continue through tomorrow, so I’ll let you know on that. For reference, during my heavy flow, I use two long, overnight Always pads as the same time with an overlap right in the middle. And I clot pretty significantly during that 24 hours.
Day 2 Overnight: roughly 11 pm – 10:30 am – Transition from regular into heavy
The overnight went great. It wasn’t until the morning wake up when I get a little restless that the panties slipped and sagged in the butt, allowing 1 small leak onto the bedsheets. The panties are comfy, but I didn’t really register that the material is much more slippery, silky almost, than my regular cotton panties. So they slide easily. In addition, I’m a side sleeper and it was easy to see how the side (around the leg toward the outer hip where there’s no absorption planned) has more blood than the front panel (where there is absorption planned). This likely won’t be a problem for back sleepers as that’s where the full coverage absorption is in the hiphugger panty.
Day 3: roughly 11 am – 3 pm – Heavy day
This day was the truest test. I deliberately checked frequently (went to the bathroom) and tried to keep them on as long as possible to really test capacity. Just as when I wear pads during heavy days, the THINX filled quickly and started slipping off, creating the same saggy butt problem as I experienced when first waking up. It’s the same problem babies have with a full diaper. I had 1 leak while sitting, but to be fair, it was right as the panties hit capacity, not any kind of deficit in the design or concept.
They lasted 5 hours, just shy of my double-pad 6 hour stretch, so I consider that a huge win for capacity.
With only one pair left to test, I switched to regular panties with double pad because first pair were not yet dry to wear (not surprising, just noting). I’ll address my laundering experience below.
At this point, I estimate the capacity to be as follows: 2 regular tampons (THINX estimate) = 4-5 hours on heaviest day = 1 tampon per 2.5 hours.
This is pretty consistent with other accounts of THINX performance by both paid and unpaid trials. (Reminder: my trial is completely unpaid; I paid regular price out of my pocket for these period panties and have had no communication with THINX other than the purchase transaction.)
Day 4: are they dry yet?
I mentioned laundering earlier, and it is actually the part of the THINX concept that elicited the most varied criticism, with users reporting anywhere from 24 hours to 4 days for the washed panties to dry enough to be worn. So here’s what happened with mine:
The first pair I wore (day 2), I rinsed in the sink (as instructed before washing) and hung them to dry; I didn’t wash them immediately because I really wanted to find out about the drying. I’d read that the panties took up to 4 days to dry, so there would practically no way to wear a pair twice in one cycle. Thankfully, I can confirm that roughly 36 hours after rinsing (they were thoroughly soaked) the first pair is completely dry. I suspect that, as with the “feeling of wetness” issue, the panties dried in an air conditioned setting were simply cold, not actually wet.
I started them drying in the bathroom overnight, hung from a hook in the shower where they didn’t touch the wall or anything. In the morning, I moved them to a hanger and hung them from the door jamb so they could continue to benefit from full circulation. By 8 am this morning, they are completely dry and ready to wear again.
For comparison, the two other pair stayed in the bathroom and are still quite wet. It should be no surprise that hanging dry in the least humid room of the house will speed up the drying, but it was worth the comparison.
So after a brief switch back to pads during the heaviest phase of my cycle (since all three pair were in rinse, clean and dry mode), I’m back in the first pair and also back to a regular day and expect to be able to wear one pair for the day.
Here’s what I’ll try during my next cycle (September):
I want to test the hiphuggers a little further during my heavy days/nights, especially the sagging and leakage to see if it was/is a result of capacity or if the panties just won’t stay put. So in September I’ll be using pads in THINX during the heavy phase.
This is pre-emptive of simply purchasing the only fuller coverage panty available from THINX.
Here’s what I really want to do when my budget allows:
I intend to purchase six more pairs
three pairs of the high waist for the heaviest day and for overnights
three pairs of the hiphuggers to round out the set
That should allow me to get through my entire cycle without having to worry about laundering and drying when it’s not convenient.
Costing It Out:
The site runs a special discount when you purchase three pairs that basically makes is $100 for a 3/pack. With the basic economy pack of pads coming in a $7 and lasting (me, at least) 2 months, that’s $3.50/mo in pads. At that rate, it will take 7 years and 2 months to break even on the panty investment ($300/3.50/12).
I don’t necessarily foresee a need to replace the panties before then if they’re only being used 12 times a year (assuming I get my full 9-pair collection) – that’s roughly 85 times over that period.
In that same amount of time, I would NOT be using and disposing of approximately 1,600 pads.
Special Shout Out to a Man
I doubt I would have the candor or even simply the idea to be this open and natural about my own period or the process of managing a period if I hadn’t had one specific man-friend many years ago ask as part of the sexual history part of our getting-to-know-you. Thank you to the unique men who recognize that physical processes and activities are not shameful, are part of a shared life with a female partner, and respect that many choices result from those conversations.
I wrote these scripture-based lyrics to Leonard Cohen’s “Hallelujah” because a bride asked for it but did not like the generic wedding versions available such as here and here.
Mark 10: 6-9
In the beginning, God had a plan
Created woman for the man
To be no longer two but of one flesh.
Man leaves behind his former life
To be united with his wife
What God has joined, let none divide Hallelujah
Song of Songs 8: 6-7
Place a seal upon your heart
Like the seal upon your hand
For love is strong and always prevails
Blazes like fire, a mighty flame
Seas and rivers will only inflame
Unquenchable love in Christ Oh Hallelujah
1 Corinthians 13
Love is patient, love is kind
Protects and trusts and will always bind
Two lives in one perfect unity.
Now with Christ who is our guide,
In Faith and Hope and Love abide
And the greatest of these is love Oh Hallelujah
Ruth 1: 16-17
Wherever you go, so I will go
Wherever you stay, so I will stay
Your people will be my people, your God my God
Thou art my joy, be near me now
Then shall my soul contented bow
I am forever at thy side Hallelujah
Good morning! How many of you look at the bulletin before church starts? [praise raised hands, welcome anyone who identifies as a newcomer]
One of the things I notice about today’s bulletin is that the word “work” appears a LOT of times. Do you go to work? [expect lots of NOs]
Are you sure? [more NOs]
Are you really sure? [more NOs]
What if I told you that you got hired for your first job on the day you were born? That you go to work every single day?
That’s right! Before God sent Jesus to earth, He gave us some rules, and the first four start with LOVE.
And when Jesus came to earth, He reminded us that the #1 rule of life is to love one another as much as God loves us.
Who remembers how much God loves us?
[Read or have a child read John 3: 16]
Now as I look back at our bulletin for this morning, we start out our service with Miss Crystal chiming the hour – you’ve head the big bell, right?
And them Preacher Mike shares announcements and invites others to come up and remind us of what’s happening at and through the church this week.
And then he says “now let us greet each other in ritual friendship.” What do we do then? [expect or prompt answers like say good morning, say hello, hug, shake hands]
Those are really great ways to show friendship, to show love. Can you think of some new ways? [I give the example that all of the choir members can’t reach each other to shake hands so they wave, or give the peace sign, or blow kisses]
[Praise examples] I want to show you one that I really would like to see you practice next week: Can you make a heart with your hands [praise everyone for doing so]. Now how about I make half the heart, and you make the other half. Now that’s a new sharing of love.
And that’s what God hired us all to do on the day we were born: to show and share love with everyone in the world.
Pray with me: Dear God, thank you soooooooo much for sending us Jesus to show us how to share love in many ways here in our church and out in the world. Amen.
Delivered on Sunday, July 10, 2016 at Palmetto Presbyterian Church in Mt. Pleasant, SC.
Props: 1 book Bible, 1-2 digital bibles (app on phone, tablet), power cords for digital devices
Preparation: pull up the Luke 4: 14 scripture on all devices
Alright, pop quiz time.
[Hold up the book Bible] What’s this? [praise answer]
[Hold up the phone with the Bible app showing] What’s this? [phone: praise answer]
[Hold up the tablet with the Bible app showing] What’s this? [tablet/kindle/ipad: praise answer]
[Hold up the power cord(s)] What’s this? [power cords: praise answer]
You guys all get an A! Now what do all of these things have in common..and why on earth have I been allowed to bring my phone and my tablet into church?
[allow for 3-4 answers; if you’re lucky enough to get bible apps as an answer, praise it]
All of those are great answers, but I have a surprise thing that’s the same about all of these. They are ALL bibles!
And if I open my book Bible to my bookmark, it’s today’s reading.
And click on my phone app, it’s today’s reading.
And click on my tablet app, it’s today’s reading.
And they all tell us that reading God’s word in the Bible as often as possible is really important.
Now, wait, these power cords can’t pull up the Bible. How do they fit in here? [allow for 1-2 answers]
Yes! They charge up the phone and the tablet – they give it power – so that we can read the Bible. And reading our Bible gives us power – power to learn what God and Jesus want us to know and power to do what they ask us to do.
Pray with me: Dear God, thank you for sending us your word to read every day and for giving us the power to understand you and do what you ask us to do. Amen
I delivered this children’s sermon on July 3, 2016 at Palmetto Presbyterian Church in Mt. Pleasant, SC.
Props: 2-3 bags of easily identifiable snacks (carrots, cheetos, starburst)
Good morning! Wow, we really had a treat this morning. We heard the children’s choir sing our bible lesson for today. What do you guys remember happened in the song about Zaccheus?
[Look for: climbed a tree to see Jesus, Jesus told him to come down, Jesus said he’s going to Zaccheus’s house.]
Yep, you guys got it! Now the story of Zaccheus goes on for a little bit more than the song. One of the things we learn early on in the story is that Zaccheus is really, really rich; he’s got a LOT of money. And when Jesus goes to Zaccheus’s house, He gets to show Zaccheus some better ways to spend his money.
Now, let me ask you: what’s something you see mom or dad do when friends come to visit? [look for and encourage any form of response that indicates hospitality – offers drink, makes snacks, makes dinner, grills hamburgers and hotdogs, etc.]
Right, having some snacks or a meal is a really important part of showing guests that they are valuable to us, that we are thankful they’ve come to visit.
Now, here’s a challenge [hold up your 2-3 bags of snacks]: I haven’t gone to the grocery store, but I just found out that I’m going to have some friends at my house right after church, and these carrots, cheetos, and starburst are the only snacks I have. What am I going to do?
[expect responses that suggest each person choosing one snack, get really excited if they suggest giving each person a little bit of each snack and sharing; commend them if they get the sharing idea without you telling them]
[If they don’t give you sharing] what if I give each person a few carrots, a few cheetos and a few starburst? I’ve shared the best of everything I have with my friends.
Well, when Jesus visits with Zaccheus, who didn’t forget to go to the grocery store, Jesus is treated to a really fancy lunch and snacks. So Jesus shows Zaccheus that if he can feed Jesus such wonderful food, he can share some of this food and the extra money he has with poor and sick people to help them.
Pray with me: Dear God, thank you for sending Zaccheus to see Jesus, for letting Zaccheus learn to share, and for showing us just how easy it is to share what we have with others. Amen.
I delivered this children’s sermon on June 26, 2016; the children’s choir had sung “Zaccheus Was a Wee Little Man” earlier in the service.
Props: enough LED tea light candles (dollar store) and 1 LED or flame taper (similar to Baptism candle)
Assistance: ask an usher or other worship attendant to turn the lights out at your signal during the Children’s Sermon
Action: As you greet the gathered children, light the Baptism candle from the Christ candle on the altar or table.
Who here gets nervous or anxious or scared sometimes? Maybe even in the dark? [allow for 3-4 responses]
Me too, which is why I light my Baptism candle. When we baptism children and adults here, most of the time Preacher Mike [name your own pastor/reverend] usually focuses on the water, but right at the end of the baptism, one of the elders lights a candle from the table and gives it to the parents or the adult.
Why do you think we do that? [allow for 2-3 responses]
Those are really great answers. Let’s look at the Bible to see what Jesus has to say:
In Matthew chapter 5, Jesus says “You are the light of the world. Let your light shine before others so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven. (ESV)
[If you’re using a flame taper, consider including a quick segment focusing on how the acolyte takes the flame from the Christ candle before snuffing out the candles and taking the light out of the church building into the world.]
Now I need your help with a quick experiment and I’ve asked Mr. Mark (sound tech) to help me [Mark turns out the lights in the sanctuary].
[Lead the children to the head of the center aisle so the most adults can see.]
We’re going to pretend for a minute that everyone here who’s not right here in our group, they don’t know who Jesus is or how good and important He is to us.
Okay, I need everyone to gather around in a really tight circle. [place the basket of LED tea lights in the center of the circle.]
Now I need 1 volunteer. Great, thank you, Connor! I want you to hold this one candle here in the circle.
[turn to the congregation] Now we need some help from the congregation this morning. What I want you to do is clap to help us know how much light you can see. So if you see a little light, clap a little. And if you see a lot of light, clap a lot!
Okay, Connor [name of the volunteer], hold your candle up so that as many people as possible can see it. [with all of the children standing, mostly only the children and a few really close adults can see, so the clapping is a little.]
Wow, I didn’t hear much clapping, so they must not be able to see just the one light. Can I get another person to hold up a second candle? Great, thank you, Caroline! Now let’s try again with TWO candles. [little more clapping]
Oh, wow, I heard a little more clapping that time. What if EVERYONE holds up a candle at the same time. [claps and cheers]
Did you hear that?! Wow! I think EVERYONE saw your light that time. That’s what happens when everyone who comes to church shares just one blessing from Jesus with someone else in the world each week. We make a huge bright light that everyone can see and want to follow with us.
Pray with me: Dear God, thank you for sending Jesus to be our light and for showing us how to be a light to others. Amen
I delivered this Children’s Sermon on June 19, 2016 at Palmetto Presbyterian Church, Mt. Pleasant, SC.
FMLA and paid family leave affects small businesses with 50+ employees this year or last year.
While a large percentage of cleaning businesses are too small to be covered by Family and Medical Leave Act requirement, those with 50+ employees for at least 20 weeks of the year do. According to the NPR’s Jennifer Ludden, “the only federally mandated leave covers just half of the workforce.” Currently, the Department of Labor does not require the leave to be paid, so most workers can’t afford to take it. For business owners, the financial burden on a company is limited to hiring and training a temporary replacement or divvying up the duties for a short time.
But an increasing trend may change that as New York because the fourth US state to mandate paid parental leave, the most generous of the packages. In addition, the city of San Francisco has also mandated paid leave at full wage or salary.
As cleaning company and maid service owners consider growth goals, keep in mind the FTE benchmarks for additional costs. In an industry where 90-95% of the workforce – in the field and in the office – are women, the costs are likely to be higher than in other industries where the mix is more balanced.
Here’s what cleaning business owners should consider tracking now to prepare for this cost in the future:
# births/adoptions by employees
average weekly wages of those employees
cost of hiring a replacement
cost of training a replacement
The latter two are recommended key performance indicators for any service business. The former are designed to help businesses establish a baseline for budgeting and bill rate increases when a similar mandate is implement in your state or nationwide.
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Stephanie Nesseth of Absolutely Clean
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Jolene Buchheit
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